In the Making

First Post

Posted by cjaxon on July 28, 2010

I’m starting the blog to keep friends and family updated on my life, where I am, what I’m up to. But I don’t want it to just be a summary of my days. The trick will be finding a balance of “here’s what I’m doing” and “here’s something interesting to read.”

So to begin, here’s “what I’m doing.” Tomorrow I finish Spanish II, my second of two summer classes. Tomorrow night begins our third weekend of shows for High School Musical. My sister, cousin, and friends are roadtripping it up tomorrow-Saturday to see it, and my parents are coming Friday-Sunday. In the meanwhile, I’ll still open at the coffee shop on Friday morning, but not on Saturday as usual, because I’m going to my friend Kristen’s WEDDING. The youth group I work with at St. Luke’s UMC have a few kids out of town for camp, but they’ll all be back and happy (and exhausted) on Sunday morning. Good times!

And here’s “Something interesting to read.” Let’s talk about that wedding real quick. The “young adult” phase of my life comes with many new and interesting changes. More freedoms, more corresponding responsibilities, but most interesting is that my peers and friends get married. It’s a beautiful and happy time (usually), and it amazes me that people my own age are now ready and eager to fully commit themselves to one other person, presumably for the rest of their lives. I mean, most people I know don’t approach marriage with the intention, or even consideration of breaking it off later.

I guess it’s all part of one of the recurring themes I’ve noticed as I join the adult world: “Now I’m where you were earlier.” As I a kid I could look and see adults and even other kids older than me going through interesting paths in life that I could know about, but wouldn’t experience for a while. Coming up through high school and even parts of college, joining in on these phases seemed right, and not a big deal. “Now I can stay up later too. Now I can drive too. Now I have to buy groceries and do laundry myself too.” Nowadays, however, these rites of passage seem much more significant. “Now I can buy alcohol too, because there are no more age limits to prohibit me from anything.” (Except lower car insurance.) “Now I won’t have school five days a week either.”

“Now I can wake up next to the same person every morning for the rest of my life too.”

I think part of what’s “weird” about people my age getting married is that to myself as a child, having a wife or husband was one of the hallmarks of being an adult. Yes, being older than me also had a lot to do with it, but having a family, or at the very least a spouse, in a way “officially” makes you an adult. I’m still working on “feeling” like an adult. It’s taken a while, but I’m finally getting there. Maybe what’s most interesting about people my age, people I know very well getting married is that I can know about loving someone else that intensely, but I don’t know it for myself yet. I haven’t met that girl, so I’m certainly not ready to make that kind of commitment yet.

So there’s the first post! A little “what I’m doing,” and a little “something interesting to read.” Hope there are many more to come!


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